We would like to announce in great sadness that one of our speakers for our retreat Melanie Williams, consultant and trainer for our upcoming retreat has passed away and gone home. She was an empowering and dynamic woman who helped many. Our prayers go out to her family and close friends during this difficult time. If you would like to leave condolences, send flowers, a card or attend the viewing or funeral please find information here: http://obits.nj.com/obituaries/starledger/obituary.aspx?n=melanie-williams&pid=174012121&fhid=4707
There is no such thing as perfection. You may believe and maybe you were told that practice makes perfect or getting all A’s is perfect. Or being the best wife, husband, or friend makes a perfect relationship. But running towards perfection only causes stress and headaches. Slams you into a depression or madness when a relationship ends, you have a 3.7 GPA, or your performance had one mistake. You obsess over the ridiculous and irrational thinking that your concept of perfection means something is wrong with you. Wasting lots of time and energy. Nothing is wrong with you.
Resist the need to be perfect. Resist society’s need for your perfection. You are beautiful my friend inside and out. You just have to believe that whatever you have to give this world comes from your imperfect mind, body, and spirit. And that is just fine.
Aunjuli Hicks, PhD
It is a wonderful feeling to know that someone out there has your back and that you are not alone. Many people will tell you that the Divine, or Faith, or Religion, or Spirituality doesn’t exist. It is a creation and the fabrication of the mind. I tell you there is nothing like having a firm foundation and strong faith in a Supreme Being wrapping itself around you when no one is around, when friends have failed, loved ones are loss or you have somehow dishonored yourself. To be able to look up, kneel down, meditate, and realize that despite all the mess and negativity around- you are protected.
You still might have to battle, but you can battle with calm because you are safe.
Aunjuli Hicks, PhD
Most of us don’t even think about change until something drastic occurs or it is a new year then it is about resolutions that we keep for a few weeks, a few months, and then we are back to same old stuff. But you do have the power to renew and refresh your life. You just have start choosing smaller goals instead of the big large ones that take forever to reach.
So instead of saying you want to lose 100lb make it 20lb or even 5lbs. You want to save money but you touch the money you save. Open up a holiday account an account you are not allowed to touch and put money it. No not $100 a week start out with $25 and increase it. Smaller steps become doable ones and doable ones makes you feel better about yourself and inspires more of a reason for you to handle more challenging change.
Changing yourself is definitely your hands.