We would like to announce in great sadness that one of our speakers for our retreat Melanie Williams, consultant and trainer for our upcoming retreat has passed away and gone home. She was an empowering and dynamic woman who helped many. Our prayers go out to her family and close friends during this difficult time. If you would like to leave condolences, send flowers, a card or attend the viewing or funeral please find information here: http://obits.nj.com/obituaries/starledger/obituary.aspx?n=melanie-williams&pid=174012121&fhid=4707
There is no such thing as perfection. You may believe and maybe you were told that practice makes perfect or getting all A’s is perfect. Or being the best wife, husband, or friend makes a perfect relationship. But running towards perfection only causes stress and headaches. Slams you into a depression or madness when a relationship ends, you have a 3.7 GPA, or your performance had one mistake. You obsess over the ridiculous and irrational thinking that your concept of perfection means something is wrong with you. Wasting lots of time and energy. Nothing is wrong with you.
Resist the need to be perfect. Resist society’s need for your perfection. You are beautiful my friend inside and out. You just have to believe that whatever you have to give this world comes from your imperfect mind, body, and spirit. And that is just fine.
Aunjuli Hicks, PhD
It is a wonderful feeling to know that someone out there has your back and that you are not alone. Many people will tell you that the Divine, or Faith, or Religion, or Spirituality doesn’t exist. It is a creation and the fabrication of the mind. I tell you there is nothing like having a firm foundation and strong faith in a Supreme Being wrapping itself around you when no one is around, when friends have failed, loved ones are loss or you have somehow dishonored yourself. To be able to look up, kneel down, meditate, and realize that despite all the mess and negativity around- you are protected.
You still might have to battle, but you can battle with calm because you are safe.
Aunjuli Hicks, PhD